GOD AND DIVORCE

This is a very Sensitive topic and I want to give it the regard it deserves . I want to start with a big disclaimer, I don’t believe in divorce , I believe in God.
Relationships have always been fraught with toxic aspects and I have experienced some of that in my time.

When I got married 26 years ago, nothing prepared me adequately for the roller coaster . God is the only reason I’m still married today , to ascribe it to another will be disingenuous. We have both given each other enough reasons to walk away but thank God our love keeps growing against all odds.

I have attended to a few on the verge of divorce over the years and tried my best for it not to happen . On some of those sessions , I had wanted to scream to some , please go apart!. I had studied the scriptures many times and yes it states that God hates divorce and whoever marries a divorcee commits the sin of adultery.
Now, let’s get into the meat of the matter , is it not stated or implied that God hates sin? Yet many of us have sinned several times and if not for the finished work of the cross? What I’m trying to say is God has standards and those will never change. Humans unfortunately struggle to meet many of those standards and that’s why Jesus came to our rescue .

Let me make it clear that a willful sin committed is not why Grace exist. We have all sinned and fallen short of Gods glory states the Bible , so nobody can make any boast . So without God many relationships will not make it.
The Bible makes it clear that any two God has joined together , let no man put asunder, does this statement cover those who got drunk and got married in a quickie ceremony in Vegas? or those who were entrapped into a relationship? or those who suddenly flip and turn and completely change on their spouse or lastly those who use their spouses as punching bags?

I have a marriage that both of us have tried to work at and ask God for help when needed , this has been possible because we both subscribe to God, we genuinely love each other and we are friends before all of these . This has helped to keep us together in troubled times and through many storms of life . What I’m trying to say is God did not put many marriages together and hence the matter of not putting it asunder does not apply.

God instituted marriage and wants us to revere and respect the institution, unfortunately, the stiff necked humans will still go after physical attributes over character and wallet over virtues thereby ending up in cul de sacs of life .
I love marriage , I’m married happily and I promote Godly marriages but statistically speaking and by mere permutations , some don’t have any business staying together . I have seen two people stay together who hate each other .

This is toxic especially where children are involved. Many have gone to their early grave because of this and many broken children have been raised in these toxic environments .

Yes, I have seen broken down marriages restored , mine was almost broken too but there are some fundamentals we must look for before suggesting continuous trial in a union . Carte Blanche approach does not work. If routine abuse is involved , that’s a red line for me.

I want to end by saying , when marriage works , it’s Heaven on Earth but Humans …sigh.